Have you ever come across spiritual friends who try to tell you what to do and what not to do when you didn’t ask? Or worse still accuse you of being wrong? And perhaps you were not sure if you should take their advice since you see them as spiritually more advanced than you. Or maybe you think that they are being caring and nice to point out your mistakes to you. Yet, there’s something inside you nagging away, but you are not sure what.Well, the thing is, too many spiritual people have a tendency to cross boundaries (thinking it is a spiritual thing to do), give unsolicited advice, and basically trying to be everyone’s guru. I personally will not heed their unsolicited advice as their need to dispense advice has more to do with them, and nothing to do with me.
If you have a tendency to do this, you may have realised by now how you have already put some of your friends and family off and that even your spiritual friends may be avoiding you.
Time and time again, I see clients who come to me lamenting about how so and so told them this or that. And they don’t know if they should follow the advice or not. And the first question I ask is, did you ask for advice or was it imposed upon you? More often than not, it was imposed. I then tell my clients, since you didn’t ask for the advice, you can just ignore it if it is not something you really want to pursue.
So why do spiritual people go around giving advice to others thinking it is a helpful thing to do or perhaps from some misguidance think it is a spiritual obligation to do so? The basic answer to this is really their own need for attention. I know this may sound harsh but it is the truth.
Almost 100% of the people who give me unsolicited advice have a need for attention, they also have an issue with lack of worthiness, and on the unconscious by giving their advice, they ‘position’ themselves as being better than me. And I am really not interested in competing with them. And a lot of the times they have great difficulty manifesting their life’s missions.
For the record it is not your spiritual obligation to tell someone something about their energy field or give them advice if they did not ask for it. It is really none of your business and you should not be snooping anyway! When people need help and advice, trust that they are adult enough to ask for it, even if they may not be seeking advice from you. If they are not able to be mature about things, then they have to learn to do so, sometimes the hard way.
On the spiritual path, the goal is to be a master of self. No one can become a master, if they have the ‘poor me’ mentality and if they don’t know how to ask for help. So even if you dispense your free unsolicited advice, they may not be able to act on it. So spare yourself the unnecessary karmic lessons.
As a light worker, you want to BE the light by behaving yourself and be the better example through your actions. Don’t try to be everyone’s guru because you will only help to repel light.
© Shamala Tan 2011
